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Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth

T. Harv Eker

Think Rich to Get Rich!

Secrets of the Millionaire Mind- Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth
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About the Author
Using the principles he teaches, T. HARV EKER Went from
zero to millionaire in only two and a half years. Eker is
president of Peak Potentials Training, one of the fastest
growing success training companies in North America. With
his unique brand of “street smarts with heart,” Eker’s
humorous, “cut-to the-chase” style keeps his audience
spellbound. People come from all over the world to attend his
sold-out seminars, where crowds often exceed 2,000 people
for a weekend program. So far, Eker’s teachings have touched
the lives of more than a quarter million people. Now, for the
first time, he shares his proven secrets of success in this
revolutionary book. Read it and grow rich!

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“Who the Heck Is
T.Harv Eker, and Why Should
I Read This Book?”
People are shocked, at the beginning of my seminars, when
one of the first things I tell them is “Don’t believe a word I
say.” Why would I suggest that? Because I can only speak
from my own experience. None of the concepts and insights I
share are inherently true or false, right or wrong. They simply
reflect my own results, and the amazing results I’ve seen in the
lives of thousands and thousands of my students. Having said
that, however, I believe that if you use the principles you learn
in this book, you will totally transform your life. Don’t just
read this book. Study it as if your life depended on it. Then try
the principles out for yourself. Whatever works, keep doing.
Whatever doesn’t, you’re welcome to throw away.
I know I may be biased, but when it comes to money, this
may be the most important book you have ever read. I understand
that’s a bold statement, but the fact is, this book
provides the missing link between your desire for success
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and your achievement of success. As you’ve probably found
out by now, those are two different worlds.
No doubt you’ve read other books, listened to tapes or
CDs, gone to courses, and learned about numerous get-rich
systems be they in real estate, stocks, or business. But what
happened? For most people, not much! They get a short blast
of energy, and then it’s back to the status quo.
Finally, there’s an answer. It’s simple, it’s law, and you’re
not going to circumvent it. It all comes down to this: if your
subconscious “financial blueprint” is not “set” for success,
nothing you learn, nothing you know, and nothing you do will
make much of a difference.
In the pages of this book, we will demystify for you why
some people are destined to be rich and others are destined for
a life of struggle. You will understand the root causes of
success, mediocrity, or financial failure and begin changing
your financial future for the better. You will understand how
childhood influences shape our financial blueprint and how
these influences can lead to self-defeating thoughts and habits.
You will experience powerful declarations that will help you
replace your nonsupportive ways of thinking with mental
“wealth files” so that you think—and succeed—just as rich
people do. You will also learn practical, step-by-step strategies
for increasing your income and building wealth.
In Part I of this book, we will explain how each of us is
conditioned to think and act when it comes to money, and
outline four key strategies for revising our mental money
blueprint. In Part II, we examine the differences between how
rich, middle-class, and poor people think, and provide
seventeen attitudes and actions to take that will lead to permanent
changes in your financial life. Throughout the book
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we also share just a few examples of the thousands of letters
and e-mails I’ve received from students who have attended the
Millionaire Mind Intensive Seminar and achieved powerful
results in their lives.
So what is my experience? Where am I coming from? Was I
always successful? I wish!
Like many of you, I supposedly had a lot of “potential” but
had little to show for it. I read all the books, listened to all the
tapes, and went to all the seminars. I really, really, really
wanted to be successful. I don’t know whether it was for the
money, the freedom, the sense of achievement, or just to
prove I was good enough in my parents’ eyes, but I was almost
obsessed with becoming a “success.” During my twenties, I
started several different businesses, each with the dream of
making my fortune, but my results went from dismal to worse.
I worked my butt off but kept coming up short. I had
“Loch Ness monster disease”: I had heard of this thing called
profit, I just never saw any of it. I kept thinking, “If I just get
into the right business, get on the right horse, I’ll make it.” But
I was wrong. Nothing was least for me. And it was
the last part of that sentence that finally struck me. How come
others were succeeding in the exact same business I was in and
I was still broke? What happened to “Mr. Potential”?
So I began doing some serious soul-searching. I examined
my true beliefs and saw that even though I said I really wanted
to be rich, I had some deep-rooted worries about it. Mostly I
was afraid. Afraid that I might fail, or worse, succeed and then
somehow lose it all. Then I’d really be a schmuck. Worse, I
would blow the one thing I had going for
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me: my “story” that I had all this “potential.” What if I found
out I didn’t have what it took and I was destined to a life of struggle?
Then, as luck would have it, I got some advice from an
extremely rich friend of my father’s. He was at my parents’
house playing cards with the “boys” and, in passing, noticed
me. This was the third time I’d moved back home, and I was
living in the “lower-level suite,” otherwise known as the
basement. I suppose my dad had complained to him of my
woeful existence because when he saw me, he had the sympathy
in his eyes usually reserved for the bereaved at a funeral.
He said, “Harv, I started in the same way as you, a complete
disaster.” Great, I thought, this was making me feel a lot
better. I should let him know that I was the
paint peel off the wall.
He kept going: “But then I got some advice that changed
my life, and I’d like to pass it on to you.” Oh, no, here comes
the father-son lecture, and he’s not even my father! Finally he
came out with it: “Harv, if you’re not doing as well as you’d
like, all that means is there’s something you don’t know.”
Being a brash young man at the time, I thought I knew pretty
well everything, but alas, my bank account said something
different. So I finally began to listen. He continued, “Did you
know that most rich people think in very similar ways?”
I said, “No, I never really considered that.” To which he
replied, “It’s not an exact science, but for the most part, rich
people think a certain way and poor people think a completely
different way, and those ways of thinking determine their
actions and therefore determine their results.” He went on, “If
you thought the way rich people do and did what
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rich people do, do you believe you could become rich too?” I
remember answering with all the confidence of a mush ball, “I
think so.” “Then,” he replied, “all you have to do is copy how
rich people think.”
Being the skeptic I was at the time, I said, “So what are you
thinking right now?” To which he replied, “I’m thinking that
rich people keep their commitments and mine is to your dad
right now. The guys are waiting for me, see ya.” Although he
walked out, what he said sank in.
Nothing else was working in my life, so I figured what the
heck and threw myself wholeheartedly into studying rich
people and how they think. I learned everything I could about
the inner workings of the mind, but concentrated primarily on
the psychology of money and success. I discovered that it was
true: rich people really do think differently from poor and even
middle-class people. Eventually, I became aware of how my
own thoughts were holding me back from wealth. More
important, I learned several powerful techniques and strategies
to actually recondition my mind so that I would think in the
same ways rich people do.
Finally, I said, “Enough yakking about it, let’s put it to the
test.” I decided to attempt yet another business. Because I was
really into health and exercise, I opened one of the first retail
fitness stores in North America. I didn’t have any money, so I
had to borrow $2,000 on my Visa card to get the business
started. I began using what I’d learned by modeling rich
people, both in terms of their business strategies and their
thinking strategies. The first thing I did was commit to my
success and playing to win. I swore I would focus and not
even consider leaving this business until I was a millionaire or
more. this was radically different from my previous efforts,
where, because I always thought short-term, I would
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constantly get sidetracked by either good opportunities or
when things got tough.
I also began challenging my mental approach whenever I
began thinking in financially negative or counterproductive
ways. In the past, I believed that what my mind said was truth.
I learned that in many ways, my mind was my biggest obstacle
to success. I chose not to entertain thoughts that did not
empower me toward my vision of wealth. I used every one of
the principles you are going to learn in this book. Did it work?
Boy, did it work!
The business was so successful that I opened ten stores in
only two and a half years. I then sold half the company shares
to a Fortune 500 company for $1.6 million.
After that, I moved to sunny San Diego. I took a couple of
years off to refine my strategies and began doing one-on-one
business consulting. I presume it was quite effective for people
because they kept bringing friends, partners, and associates to
our sessions. Soon I was coaching ten and sometimes twenty
people at a time.
One of my clients suggested that I might as well open up a
school. I thought that was a great idea, so I did. I founded the
Street Smart Business School and taught thousands of people
all across North America “street-smart” business strategies for
“high-speed” success.
As I traveled across the continent giving my seminars, I
noticed something strange: You could have two people sitting
side by side in exactly the same room, learning exactly the
same principles and strategies. One person would take these
tools and skyrocket to success. But what do you think might
happen to the person sitting right next to him or her? The
answer is, not much!
That’s when it became obvious that you can have the
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greatest “tools” in the world, but if you’ve got a tiny leak in
your “toolbox” (I’m pointing to my head right now), you’ve
got a problem. So I designed a program called the Millionaire
Mind Intensive based on the inner game of money and
success. When I combined the inner game (the toolbox) with
the outer game (the tools), virtually everybody’s results went
through the roof! So that’s what you’re going to learn in this
book: how to master the inner game of money to win the
game of money—how to think rich to get rich!
People often ask me whether my success was a “one-shot
deal” or whether it has continued. Let me put it this way:
Using the exact principles I teach, I have now earned millions
and millions of dollars and am a multimultimillionaire several
times over. Virtually all my investments and business ventures
seem to skyrocket! Some people tell me I have the “Midas
touch,” where everything I get involved in turns to gold.
They’re right, but what they may not realize is that having a
Midas touch is simply another way of saying, having a
“financial blueprint” set for success, which is exactly what you
will have once you learn these principles and do this work.
Early on during our Millionaire Mind Intensive Seminar, I
generally ask the audience, “How many of you came here to
learn?” It’s a bit of a trick question because as author Josh
Billings said, “It’s not what we don’t know that prevents us
from succeeding; it’s what we know that just ain’t so that is our
greatest obstacle.” This book is not as much about learning as
it is about “unlearning”! It is essential you recognize how your
old ways of thinking and acting have gotten you exactly where
you are right now.
If you’re really rich and really happy, fine. But if you’re not,
I invite you to consider some possibilities that may not
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fit into your “box” of what you currently think is right or even
appropriate for you.
Even though I suggest that you “don’t believe a word I say”
and want you to test these concepts out in your own life, I’m
going to ask you to trust the ideas you are reading. Not
because you know me personally, but because thousands and
thousands of people have already changed their lives as a result
of the principles in this book.
Speaking of trust, it reminds me of one of my favorite stories.
It’s about a man who is walking along a cliff and all of a
sudden loses his balance, slips, and falls off. Fortunately, he
has the presence of mind to grab on to the ledge, and he’s
hanging there for dear life. He hangs and hangs and finally
yells out, “Is there anybody up there who can help me?”
There’s no answer. He keeps calling and calling, “Is there
anybody up there who can help me?” Finally this big bellowing
voice calls back, “This is God. I can help you. Just let go and
trust.” Next thing you hear: “Is there anybody else up there
who can help me?”
The lesson is simple. If you want to move to a higher level
of life, you have to be willing to let go of some of your old
ways of thinking and being and adopt new ones. The results
will eventually speak for themselves.

Table of Contents
“Who the Heck Is T. Harv Eker, and
Why Should I Read This Book?”

Your Money Blueprint

The Wealth Files
Seventeen Ways Rich People Think and
Act Differently from Poor and Middle-Class People

“So What the Heck Do I Do Now?”

Special Bonus Offer 193
Share the Wealth 197

Recommended Resources 199
Index 203
About the Author
About the Publisher

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The offer on page 193 is open to all purchasers of Secrets of the
Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker. Original proof of purchase is
required. The offer is limited to the Millionaire Mind Intensive
weekend seminar only, and your registration in the seminar is
subject to availability of space and/or changes to program
schedule. The course must be completed by July 1, 2006. The
value of this free admission for you and a companion is
$2,590, as of February 2005. Corporate or organizational
purchasers may not use one book to invite more than two
people. While participants will be responsible for their travel
and other costs, admission to the program is complimentary.
Participants in the seminars are under no additional financial
obligation whatsoever to Peak Potentials Training or T. Harv
Eker. Peak Potentials Training reserves the right to refuse
admission to anyone it believes may disrupt the seminar, and
to remove from the premises anyone it believes is disrupting the seminar.

Unlock Your Creativity-Boost Your Memory-Change Your Life

Tony Buzan with Susanna Abbott, Creative Editor

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You are now in possession of the thinking tool which can transform the way you
think for ever.
When you use Mind Maps on a daily basis, you will find that your life becomes
more productive, fulfilled, and successful on every level:
You can achieve what you want to achieve.
You can become an ideas person.
You can become more efficient and more productive.
You can make your dreams a reality.
Like a road map, Mind Maps will help you get from where you are now to where
you want to be.
As we have seen throughout this book, Mind Maps are so effective because they
work with your brain and its natural ways of functioning: they are a physical
realization of the incredible networking and explosive Mind Maps of thought in
your head. In short, they work with the brain’s all-important hunger for
imagination and association. This is why Mind Mapping is a co-operative
venture – and adventure – between what goes on in your head and what you put on paper.
As you now know, there are no limits to the number of thoughts, ideas, and
connections that your brain can make, which means that there are no limits to the
different ways you can use Mind Maps to help you.
I wish you every success and every enjoyment on your Mind Map journey with
the universe of your brain.

Do you want to:
Come up with innovative ideas and creative solutions?
Memorize information and recall it under pressure?
Set goals and achieve them?
Change career or start up your own venture?
Be an excellent time manager?
Run meetings with efficiency and ease?
Budget and plan to perfection?
Deliver excellent presentations with confidence?
Have more time for yourself and your family?
Enjoy success after success in your life?

If you have answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, then you have the right
book in your hands! Mind Maps are a unique thinking tool that will bring out
your natural genius and enable you to shine in every area of your life. The
Ultimate Book of Mind Maps is the definitive guide to using this remarkable tool.

Chapter One, What is a Mind Map?, introduces you to Mind Maps and how
they work. It explains the basic Mind Map ‘rules’ and takes you step-by-step
through your first Mind Map.
Chapter Two, Know Your Brain, Unlock Your Potential, digs deeper into the
reasons why Mind Maps work and how they actually help your brain learn and
think creatively. The better you understand your brain and how it works, the
easier it is for you to help it perform to its best.
Chapter Three, The Ultimate Success Formula, looks at learning how to
learn. It gives you a foolproof formula for learning and success that you can use
in combination with Mind Maps. With the TEFCAS success formula and Mind
Maps you’ll always succeed!
Chapter Four, Mind Workouts for Mental Success, delves into the world of
creativity and shows you how Mind Maps are the ideal tool for quality creative
thinking. It also looks at how strong creative skills help your ability to remember
things with ease, and gives you important memory principles that you can use
with Mind Maps.
Chapter Five, Physical Fitness for Mental Power, highlights the importance of
physical fitness for mental fitness. It looks at optimal ways of getting the right
balance of exercise, sleep, and quality nutrition, and shows you how Mind Maps
can help you achieve this balance.
Finally, Chapter Six, Mind Maps for Everyday Success, shows you just some
of the infinite ways you can use Mind Maps in the workplace, socially, and in
your general life planning. Use the Mind Map examples in this chapter to inspire
you and your fabulous imagination, and you can be sure you will demonstrate
your brilliance in everything you do.

Mind Maps wonderfully and dramatically changed my life for the better. I know
that they will do the same for you, too.
Be prepared to be amazed – by yourself!

List of Mind Maps
Chapter One
What Is a Mind Map?
Jolly hols
Chapter Two
Know Your Brain, Unlock Your Potential Brain cell
Bee skills
The body of your brain
Synergetic brain
Chapter Three
The Ultimate Success Formula Persistence
Chapter Four
Mind Workouts for Mental Success Creativity game
Creativity tips
Chapter Five
Physical Fitness for Mental Power The body’s major systems
Physical power check map
Daily living
Get fit
Chapter Six
Mind Maps for Everyday Success Running a meeting
Preparing for a job interview
Writing an essay
Starting a new venture
Shopping for gifts
Planning a romantic weekend
Learning a language
The wedding
Planning a garden
Family events
Successful budgeting
Mapping your way through a problem
Life vision and purpose
Your ideal future

Table of Contents
Title Page
List of Mind Maps
Chapter One
What Is a Mind Map?
How Can Mind Maps Help You?
The Great Geniuses and Note-making
Mind Mappers in History
What Do You Need to Make a Mind Map?
Seven Steps to Making a Mind Map
Creating Your First Mind Map
Mind Maps in Action
Chapter Two
Know Your Brain, Unlock Your Potential
How Well Do You Know Your Brain?
Our Evolving Knowledge of Our Evolving Brains
The Brain Principle of Synergy
The Learning Principle of Repetition
Mind Maps: Brain Tool Extraordinaire
Chapter Three
The Ultimate Success Formula
Learning How to Learn
The Success Formula – TEFCAS
The Principle of Success
The Principle of Persistence
Mind Maps and TEFCAS
Chapter Four
Mind Workouts for Mental Success
How Can I Boost My Creativity?
Mind Maps for Creative Thinking
Advanced Creative Mind Mapping
Creativity and Memory
Memorizing Information from a Mind Map
Repetition and Memory
The Importance of Study Breaks
Creativity Is the Key to Mental Success
Chapter Five
Physical Fitness for Mental Power
The New Science of Body and Mind
General Physical Fitness
Feed Your Body, Feed Your Mind
Rest, Sleep, and Your Brain
Mind Map Motivator
Chapter Six
Mind Maps for Everyday Success
Mind Maps for Work
Running a meeting
Job interview
Writing an essay
Starting a new venture
Mind Maps for Your Social Life
Shopping for gifts
A romantic weekend
Learning a foreign language
Your daughter’s wedding
Designing your garden
Mind Maps for Life
Planning family events
Planning a budget
Creative problem solving
Life vision and purpose
Creating your ideal future
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What does power mean to us?

Thich Nhat Hanh

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About the Author
THICH NHAT HANH has lived an extraordinary life in an
extraordinary time. Since the age of sixteen he has been a
Buddhist monk and a peace activist. During the war in
Vietnam, he worked tirelessly for reconciliation between
North and South Vietnam. His courageous efforts to
generate peace moved Martin Luther king Jr. to
nominate him for the Nobel Peace Prize in 1967. Forced
into exile because of his efforts to negotiate peace in
Vietnam, he continued his social activism, founding
universities and social service organizations in his
homeland and working to rescue boat people. Thich
Nhat Hanh is the author of many books including such
important classics as Peace is Every Step and Anger. He
lives in France. Visit the author online at

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In January 2001, I was privileged to accompany Thich
Nhat Hanh and his longtime assistant, Sister Chan
Khong, to the World Economic Conference, held each
year in Davos, Switzerland. Thich Nhat Hanh had been
invited along with other prominent religious leaders
from around the planet to meet and discuss how
spiritual values could be used to help resolve global issues.

Before an estimated thirty heads of state, two
hundred of the world’s richest men and women, and a
few thousand of the most influential movers and
shakers alive, Thich Nhat Hanh spoke with love,
compassion, and total fearlessness. He was not there to
seek support or approval from the great and famous. He
was there hoping to awaken in them their best, to help
them change the world by touching their own true
selves. In a gathering dedicated to wealth, influence, and
power in all its fabulous manifestations, he spoke in a
soft and quiet voice. He asked nothing of them, only
reminding them to please always remember their
common humanity. On its Web site, the World
Economic Forum proudly displays the motto
“Committed to Improving the State of the World.” That
day, in Davos, Switzerland, Thich Nhat Hanh asked
everyone to adopt the motto “Committed to Improving
the State of Every Heart.”

Thich Nhat Hanh has spent his life speaking truth to
power and truth to the powerless. He is a determined
revolutionary—not one who asks us to mount the
ramparts in anger, but rather a revolutionary of the
human spirit, a revolutionary of understanding and of
love. Born in 1926, he grew up in Vietnam, one of the
most war-torn countries of the twentieth century. At
age sixteen he was ordained as a Buddhist monk. From
the beginning he was that rare person who could
undertake multiple vocations and excel at all of them.
Simultaneously he was a Buddhist monk, scholar, poet,
writer, reformer, and social activist. And he did all of
this as a young man in a time and place of immeasurable
turmoil and suffering. He lived through the invasion of
his homeland by the Japanese in 1941, the return of the
French at the end of the Second World War, the guerilla
war that followed and became what is known in
Vietnam as the American war and in the United States
as the Vietnam War. As a reformer and activist, he
helped found many groundbreaking institutions,
including the An Quang Buddhist Institute, which
became one of the foremost centers of Buddhist studies
in South Vietnam, and the La Boi Press, which
established itself as one of the country’s most
prestigious publishing houses. He was also a founder of
the School of Youth for Social Service, called “the little
Peace Corps” by the American press. During the worst
years of the war, he and his assistant, Sister Chan
Khong, risked their lives along with thousands of other
young people, including many Buddhist monks and
nuns, by going into the countryside to establish schools
and health clinics and to rebuild villages destroyed by
the fighting. During this time he was also editor-in-chief
of the official publication of the Unified Buddhist
Church and the author of numerous books of poetry,
Buddhist psychology, and social commentary. In 1966
he traveled to the United States to call for peace. During
this trip he spoke to the American public to “describe
the aspirations and the agony of the voiceless masses of
the Vietnamese people.” He also met with many
important figures in America, including Dr. Martin
Luther King Jr., who nominated him for the 1967 Nobel
Peace Prize. In 1969 he led the Buddhist Peace
Delegation to the Paris Peace Talks, organized to
negotiate an end to the war in Vietnam. In 1973, because
of his peace work, he was denied permission to return
home. But being exiled did not deter him. Over the past
forty years of living in the West, he has established
himself as one of the most influential and respected
spiritual leaders in the world. He has continued his
social activism through the support of over one hundred
schools and programs of village improvement in his
homeland. He has also continued to be involved with
peace and social justice movements around the world,
speaking out on issues from AIDS to the Iraq War.
With more than one hundred books in print in over
thirty languages and a year-round teaching schedule, his
impact continues to grow worldwide. From his
hermitage at Plum Village in southwestern France, he
guides numerous communities of monks, nuns, and
laypersons on five continents. In 2005 he was able to
return to his homeland for the first time in thirty-nine years.

In his new work, The Art of Power, Thich Nhat Hanh
approaches the subject of power from a radically
different direction than most philosophers and thinkers
in the Western tradition. Beginning about 2,500 years
ago in classical Greece, the topic of power and the
appropriate use or abuse of power has been a central
subject of debate in Western civilization. For millennia,
inquiries into the subject of power have focused
primarily on the state’s monopoly on violence, its
proper legal use, and the legitimacy and behavior of
those who control it. Over the centuries, innumerable
books have been written on the techniques of power,
how to gain power, how to use power, and how to hold
on to power.

In these pages, however, Thich Nhat Hanh begins his
inquiry into power at its very base, its most organic
level. He begins with volition, our deepest intention. He
explains to us that the ability to attain any goal is
absolutely contingent on the condition and quality of
our mind. That a wholesome intention combined with a
lucid mind is the prerequisite for genuine power. He
reminds us of the obvious fact, so long forgotten, that
anyone with a clear and caring mind is inherently
powerful, no matter how little power she appears to
possess. He makes crystal clear that everyone, without
exception, at their core being has the deepest intention
of love and goodness, and he asks, advises, exhorts, and
inspires all of us to return to that primal source.
He knows all too well, having personally witnessed
war and its immeasurable suffering, people’s awful
propensity to be corrupted by power. Like the prophet
Levi, who came out of the desert to confront King
Solomon, he reminds us that all power, especially great
power, has within it the seeds of its own destruction.

And that all the power you possess, no matter how
great, is useless if it does not bring you joy and does not
bring peace and happiness to those you love. He asks
us how we can make the claim to be powerful when we
are not free from the oppression of our anger or the
scourge of our fear. He challenges us to realize that
genuine power comes only with a clear mind and a calm
heart, and that when we are not in control of our own
thoughts we are actually quite powerless, nothing more
than slaves to our fears, emotions, and craving. When
this happens, it is not we who possess power; it is
power that possesses us. He states boldly that every
person is born with the capacity to be free of fear,
delusion, and tyranny, whether external or, just as
important, internal. To him both the tyranny of the
state and the tyranny of our own mental anguish and its
terrible effects are surmountable. He tells us that the
surest way to deal with the age-old problem of the
corrosive nature of state power is to create a society of
insightful and healthy minds, a citizenry that is strong,
happy, and free—especially free from the fear of not
having power and the fear of losing power. In this book,

Thich Nhat Hanh, as he begins his ninth decade, shows
us the way out of the crippling paradox of corrupt
power and powerlessness and points us in the direction
of authentic power. He continues to walk his talk and to
tell us, “I have done it, you can do it, and my friends,
we can all do it.” He asks us to have the courage to
begin with ourselves as we express our compassion and
determination to heal the world.
—Pritam Singh

Table of Contents

1 True Power
2 Handling Power Skillfully
3 The Art of Mindfulness
4 Getting What We Really Want
5 The Secret of Happiness
6 Boundless Love
7 Being Present at Home and at Work
8 Taking Care of Nonbusiness
9 Sparking a Collective Awakening
Appendix A: Meditations to Cultivate Power
Appendix B: Work and Pleasure: The Example of Patagonia

About the Author
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The Art of Power
* During the Buddha’ s time, monastics wore yellow robes and
laypersons wore white robes when practicing with the monastics.

Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success


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 2014 by Amy Morin 

When I was twenty-three, my mother died suddenly from a brain aneurysm.
She’d always been a healthy, hardworking, vibrant woman who had loved life
right up until her last minute on earth. In fact, I saw her the night before she
died. We met at an auditorium to watch a high school basketball tournament.
She was laughing, talking, and enjoying life like she always did. But just twentyfour
hours later she was gone. The loss of my mother affected me deeply. I
couldn’t imagine going through the rest of my life without her advice, laughter, or love.

At the time, I was working as a therapist at a community mental health center,
and I took a few weeks off to privately deal with my grief. I knew I couldn’t be
effective at helping other people unless I was able to productively deal with my
own feelings. Becoming used to a life that no longer included my mother was a
process. It wasn’t easy, but I worked hard to get myself back on my feet. From
my training as a therapist, I knew that time doesn’t heal anything; it’s how we
deal with that time that determines the speed at which we heal. I understood that
grief was the necessary process that would eventually alleviate my pain, so I
allowed myself to feel sad, to get angry, and to fully accept what I’d truly lost
when my mother passed away. It wasn’t just that I missed her—it was also the
painful realization that she would never be there again during the important
events in my life and that she would never experience the things she’d looked
forward to—like retire from her job and become a grandmother. With supportive
friends and family, and my faith in God, I found a sense of peace; and as life
went on, I was able to remember my mother with a smile, rather than with pangs of sadness.

A few years later, as we approached the third anniversary of my mother’s
death, my husband, Lincoln, and I discussed how to best honor her memory that
weekend. Friends had invited us to watch a basketball game on Saturday
evening. Coincidentally, the game was being played in the same auditorium
where we’d last seen my mother. Lincoln and I talked about what it would be
like to go back to the place where we’d seen her, just three years ago, on the
night before she passed away.

We decided it could be a wonderful way to celebrate her life. After all, my
memories of her that night were very good. We’d laughed, had a chance to talk
about all kinds of things, and had an all-around great evening. My mother had
even predicted my sister would get married to her boyfriend at the time—and a
few years later that prediction came true.
So Lincoln and I returned to the auditorium and we enjoyed spending time
with our friends. We knew it was what my mother would have wanted. It felt
nice to go back and feel okay about being there. But just as I took a sigh of relief
about my progress in dealing with my mother’s death, my entire life was once
again turned upside down.

After returning home from the basketball game, Lincoln complained of back
pain. He’d broken several vertebrae in a car accident a few years prior, so back
pain wasn’t unusual for him. But just a few minutes later, he collapsed. I called
for paramedics and they arrived within minutes and transported him to the
hospital. I called his mother, and his family met me in the emergency room. I
had no idea what could possibly be wrong with him.
After a few minutes in the emergency room waiting area, we were called into
a private room. Before the doctor even said a word, I knew what he was going to
say. Lincoln had passed away. He’d had a heart attack.

On the same weekend that we honored the three-year anniversary of my
mother’s death, I now found myself a widow. It just didn’t make any sense.
Lincoln was only twenty-six and he didn’t have any history of heart problems.
How could he be here one minute and gone the next? I was still adjusting to life
without my mother, and now I’d have to learn how to deal with life without
Lincoln. I couldn’t imagine how I would get through this.
Dealing with the death of a spouse is such a surreal experience. There were so
many choices to be made at a time when I really wasn’t in any shape to decide
anything. Within a matter of hours, I had to start making decisions about
everything from the funeral arrangements to the wording of the obituary. There
wasn’t any time to let the reality of the situation really sink in; it was completely

I was fortunate to have many people in my life who supported me. A journey
through grief is an individual process, but loving friends and family certainly
helped. There were times when it seemed to get a little easier and times when it
would get worse. Just when I’d think I was getting better, I’d turn another corner
to find overwhelming sadness waiting for me. Grief is an emotionally, mentally,
and physically exhausting process.
There were so many things to feel sad about too. I felt sad for my husband’s
family, knowing how much they’d loved Lincoln. I felt sad about all the things
Lincoln would never experience. And I was sad about all the things we’d never
get to do together, not to mention, how much I missed him.
I took as much time off from work as I could. Those months are mostly a blur
as I was focused on just putting one foot in front of the other every day. But I
couldn’t stay out of work forever. I was down to just one income and had to get
back into the office.

After a couple of months, my supervisor called and asked about my plans to
return to work. My clients had been told I would be out of the office indefinitely
while I dealt with a family emergency. They weren’t given any type of time
frame about how long I’d be out, since we weren’t really sure what was going to
happen. But now, they needed an answer. I certainly wasn’t done grieving, and I
definitely wasn’t “better,” but I needed to go back to work.
Just like when I’d lost my mother, I had to allow myself time to experience
the sorrow head-on. There was no ignoring it or pushing it away. I had to
experience the pain while also proactively helping myself heal. I couldn’t allow
myself to stay stuck in my negative emotions. Although it would have been easy
to pity myself or dwell on my past memories, I knew it wouldn’t be healthy. I
had to make a conscious choice to start down a long road to building a new life
for myself.

I had to decide whether some of the goals Lincoln and I shared together were
still going to be my goals. We’d been foster parents for a few years and had
planned to eventually adopt a child. But did I still want to adopt a child as a
single woman? I continued my work as a foster parent, providing mostly
emergency and respite placements, for the next few years, but I wasn’t sure I still
wanted to adopt a child without Lincoln.
I also had to create new goals for myself now that I was alone. I decided to
venture out and try new things. I got my motorcycle license and bought a
motorcycle. I also began writing. At first it was mostly a hobby, but eventually it
turned into a part-time job. I had to renegotiate new relationships with people as
well by figuring out which of Lincoln’s friends would remain my friends and
what my relationship with his family would be like without him. Fortunately for
me, many of his closest friends maintained friendships with me. And his family
continued to treat me like part of their family.

About four years later, I was fortunate enough to find love again. Or maybe I
should say love found me. I was sort of getting used to life as a single person.
But that all changed when I began dating Steve. We’d known each other for
years and slowly our friendship turned into a relationship. Eventually, we started
talking about a future together. Although I had never thought I’d get married
again, with Steve it just seemed right.
I didn’t want a formal wedding or a reception that parodied the ceremony I’d
had with Lincoln. Although I knew my guests would be thrilled to see me marry
again, I also knew it would conjure up pangs of sadness for people as they
remembered Lincoln. I didn’t want my wedding day to be a somber occasion, so
Steve and I decided to have a nontraditional wedding. We eloped to Las Vegas
and it was a completely joyous occasion that centered around our love and happiness.

About a year after we married, we decided to sell the house that Lincoln and I
had lived in, and we moved a few hours away. We’d be closer to my sister and
my nieces and it gave us an opportunity to have a fresh start. I got a job at a busy
medical practice and we were looking forward to enjoying our future together.
Just as life seemed to be going great, our road to happiness took another strange
twist when Steve’s father was diagnosed with cancer.
Initially, doctors predicted that his treatment could help keep the cancer at bay
for several years. But after a few months, it was clear that he wasn’t likely to
survive one year, let alone several. He’d tried a few different options but nothing
really worked. As time went on the doctors grew more perplexed by his lack of
response to treatment. After about seven months, he’d run out of treatment options.

The news hit me like a ton of bricks. Rob was so full of life. He was the kind
of guy who could always pull a quarter from behind a kid’s ear and he told some
of the funniest stories I have ever heard. Although he lived in Minnesota and we
lived in Maine, we saw him often. Since he was retired, he had the availability to
visit with us for weeks at a time and I’d always joked with him that he was my
favorite houseguest—because he was basically our only houseguest.
He was also one of my biggest fans when it came to my writing. He read
whatever I wrote, whether it was an article about parenting or a piece on
psychology. Quite often, he’d call me with story ideas and suggestions.
Even though Rob was seventy-two, it felt like he was too young to be so sick.
Right up until the previous summer he was motorcycling across the country,
sailing around Lake Superior, and cruising the countryside with the top down in
his convertible. But now he was too sick, and the doctors were clear—he was
only going to get worse.

This time I had a different experience dealing with death. My mother’s and
Lincoln’s deaths were completely unexpected and sudden. But this time, I had
warning. I knew what was coming, and it filled me with a sense of dread.
I found myself thinking, Here we go again. I didn’t want to go through such a
staggering loss all over again. It just didn’t seem right. I know plenty of people
my age who haven’t lost anyone, so why did I have to lose so many of my loved
ones? I sat at the table thinking about how unfair it was, how hard it was going
to be, and how much I wanted things to be different.
I also knew I couldn’t let myself go down that road. After all, I’d been
through this before and I’d be okay again. If I let myself fall into the trap of
thinking my situation was worse than anyone else’s, or if I convinced myself that
I couldn’t handle one more loss, it wasn’t going to help. Instead, it would only
hold me back from dealing with the reality of my situation.
It was at that moment that I sat down and wrote my list “13 Things Mentally
Strong People Don’t Do.” They were the habits I’d fought so hard against to
come out on the other side of my grief. They were the things that could hold me
back from getting better, if I allowed them to take hold of me.
Not surprisingly, they were the same skills I was giving to the clients who
entered my therapy office. But writing them down was something I needed to do
to help me stay on track. It was a reminder that I could choose to be mentally
strong. And I needed to be strong, because a few weeks after writing down that
list, Rob passed away.

Psychotherapists are known for helping others build on their strengths, doling
out tips on how they should act and what they can do to improve themselves. But
when I created my list on mental strength, I decided to stray for a moment from
what has become second nature to me. And focusing on what not to do has made
all the difference. Good habits are important, but it’s often our bad habits that
prevent us from reaching our full potential. You can have all the good habits in
the world, but if you keep doing the bad habits alongside the good ones, you’ll
struggle to reach your goals. Think of it this way: you’re only as good as your
worst habits.

Bad habits are like heavy weights that you drag around as you go about your
day. They’ll slow you down, tire you out, and frustrate you. Despite your hard
work and talent, you’ll struggle to reach your full potential when you’ve got
certain thoughts, behaviors, and feelings holding you back.
Picture a man who chooses to go to the gym every day. He works out for
almost two hours. He keeps a careful record of the exercises he performs so he
can track his progress. Over the course of six months, he isn’t noticing much of a
change. He feels frustrated that he’s not losing weight and gaining muscle. He
tells his friends and family that it just doesn’t make sense why he’s not looking
and feeling better. After all, he rarely ever misses a workout. What he leaves out
of the equation is the fact that he enjoys a treat on his drive home from the gym
every day. After all that exercise, he feels hungry and tells himself, “I’ve worked
hard. I deserve a treat!” So each day, he eats one dozen donuts on his drive home.

Seems ridiculous, right? But we all are guilty of this kind of behavior. We
work hard to do the things that we think will make us better, but we forget to
focus on the things that might be sabotaging our efforts.
Avoiding these thirteen habits isn’t just what will help you through grief.
Getting rid of them will help you develop mental strength, which is essential to
dealing with all life’s problems—big or small. No matter what your goals are,
you’ll be better equipped to reach your full potential when you’re feeling
mentally strong.

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13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do- Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success
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